Friday, March 22, 2013

Djaha Family Takes Morocco

Just picked up my family at Mohammed V airport in Casablanca for a 10-day journey throughout al-Maghreb. Mom, Dad, Ben, Nanny, Uncle Steve, and my cousin, Brett, are all here to take on Morocco.

Friday - Monday: Marrakech
Tuesday: Essouaria
Wednesday - Friday: Rabat
Saturday & Sunday: Fez & Meknes




Admit it, you are jealous you aren't here too (Amanda, Sammy, Aunt P)...

Check back for more pictures and posts!

Monday, March 18, 2013

Weekend in Temara


On Saturday, Mama, Nissim, Omar, and our “grandmother” (a close family friend) ventured out the Rabat suburb of Temara to spend the weekend with Kaoutar’s parents, Rita and Abdelkader, in their new apartment. This was a big day because it was the first time I had been out of our house with Mama; she leaves a few times every day, but usually when I’m at school. She was dressed in her nicest orange and brown jellaba and she looked beautiful!

We took an hour long public bus out to the country and arrived around 1pm. Kaoutar and Rita had wanted me to come out for quite some time, since I’ve been in Rabat, so they were incredibly happy to have me here. I also love spending time with Abdelkader, because he and Rita are truly like my Moroccan grandparents. Like my own grandfather Victor, Abdelkader wants to show me the whole neighborhood and take me to meet the neighbors. He grabs my arm and tells me story after story after story. He gives me the eyeball of the lamb in the tagine we are eating. He takes all my bones after I eat and “cleans them, because that’s the good meat”. It’s like I’m home...

It also feels like home because of the amount of food we eat at each and every meal. For lunch, we had 3 Moroccan salads, chicken tangine, french fries and cake. For kaskrout (pre-dinner snack), we had hundreds of Moroccan pastries (which I brought as a gift to Rita), tea and cake. For dinner at 11pm, we had harira (my favorite Moroccan lentil soup), chocolate croissants, chubz (bread), and cake. Basically every meal, we have chubz and cake.



Coming to the country here feels like it does at home, and that makes me happy. The whole family is relaxed, everyone is helping with the cooking and cleaning, all the kids sit on the floor, and we play games outside and watch movies all night. All to similar to summer weekends with my family in the Catskills...

A Magical Night


My time in Morocco so far has taught so many things, but most importantly: never say no to things people invite me to. On Wednesday night, I was starving and lethargic after a 2-hour hammam stay, but when my host sister Kaoutar invited me to go listen to Ghanawi music in the medina, I knew I had to accept. 

Ghanawi music is a blend of Moroccan, Spanish, Berber, and African tones and beats that come together to form an amalgam of sounds, overtones and call and response verses that are captivating and truly addicting. While the group was playing, sitting on Moroccan cushions at the front of the center room drinking mint tea, friends and family would stand in front of them and begin to dance. After some time, these dances became trances, and nearby women would grab onto these individuals to control them during the 20 or 30 minute songs. These trances were incredibly intense and often times people would lose consciousness and pass out during them. It was one of the most unique things I’ve ever seen. 

We arrived at 11pm and stayed until 3:30am, and the session sometimes goes until 7 or 8 in the morning! It turned out that Kaoutar’s best friend’s fiancée is the leader of the best and most traditional Ghanawi group in all of the old medina. I was under the impression that we were going to some sort of music hall or community center, and still thought that even when I entered the beautiful and traditional riyad near Bab Lalou. However, I soon learned that we were actually in the fiancée’s family’s house, and every Wednesday night the entire group comes for a small, intimate practice session open only to family and close friends. I felt so incredibly honored and privileged to be there because I knew nobody else on my program has experienced anything as authentic and rare as this so far. 

Every hour, the men would take a break and form their kif circle around me, and which time I would tell them how much I loved the music and how happy I was to be with them that night. I also showed them American music, such as Dave Matthews Band’s Minarets, which had many Moroccan and tribal vibes similar to the beautiful music they were producing for us. They even let me be part of my own call and response verse. 

When I left, Kaoutar grabbed my arm and told me after tonight, I am undoubtedly a true Moroccan. 

Smack in the Middle of Nowhere


In the province of Fqih ben Saleh, at the foot of the middle Atlas Mountains, lies a small village named Oulad Ghanem. With a population of only a few hundred, it’s safe to say that my 5-day stay in this douane or small village was the most “off the grid” I’ve ever been in my entire life. In addition to agriculture, milk products and producing olive oil to survive, this entire region of Morocco has been characterized by its reliance on sending workers to Spain and Italy to work in order to make money to improve their standard of living back in Morocco. 

Throughout our stay, we spoke to an anthropologist from the village, groups of women, and men who successfully made it to Europe to find work. What’s interesting is that there is significant cultural and gender pressures which force many young men to embark on incredibly dangerous journeys to Europe. In comparison with my week speaking with Moroccan Residents Abroad in Amsterdam, I noticed that I’ve met two distinct groups of people who have very different concepts of “home”. When examining my experience and relationships with these Moroccans both at home and abroad, it is clear the motivations, effects and general mindset of living or working in Europe is very different for each group of people. 

In the village, Morocco is still “home”; these young men are motivated to travel to Europe, often illegally, for the purpose of working and securing papers to make transit and mobility easier. They work for ten months in Italy or Spain and return for two months for vacation with their families back in Morocco.  The purpose of their voyage and employment in Europe is not to create a new and better life abroad, rather to earn enough money to bring home and make life better in Morocco. Conversely, the Moroccans I met in Amsterdam view the Netherlands as their home, visiting Morocco only for a short period of time each year to see relatives or to show Morocco to their children. They are not living and working in Europe to guarantee a better life in Morocco because their motivation is to live, work and prosper in the Netherlands, where their spouses, children, and sometimes extended family now live as well. It is important to note, however, that many of these Moroccans are second or third generation migrants who were born in the Netherlands, while in the village, all of the men who work in Europe were born in Morocco.

These two distinct trends of migration highlight the differences between patterns of migration for Moroccans. In the 1960s, Moroccans were brought over as guest workers to make money and return home, a trend exemplified by the Moroccan men I spoke with in the village. A man we spoke with named Mustafa explained the motivations for migration. “It’s about improving your economic situation here, otherwise, we would have never left. That’s why we keep one foot here and one foot there.” Conversely, in the 1970s, full families were brought to Europe to reside permanently, a trend that I observed when talking to Moroccans in Amsterdam. This was the impetus for second or third generation Dutch-Moroccans. 

However, these characteristically different patterns of migration that I observed might in fact be due to a variety factors. First, in Amsterdam, we almost only spoke with elite, educated Dutch-Moroccan scholars such as Nadia Bourass and Fouad Laroui. They were fully integrated into Dutch society, enjoyed prosperous, comfortable social positions and had no motivation to return to Morocco because they were quite successful in Amsterdam. Unlike the male workers from Fqih ben Saleh, they were not in Europe for the purpose of making money in order to improve life in Morocco; their lives were in Amsterdam and they only visited Morocco for a week or two a year for the purpose of seeing extended family and friends. Second, the Netherlands is quite different from Spain or Italy in regards to the services the state provides to all members of society, namely healthcare and unemployment benefits: these services are attractive enough to make people stay. Conversely, because of the economic crisis, times were much tougher for those in Spain and Italy. These two factors, among many other unexplored factors, might in fact prove to be the reasons for the two distinctly different trends of migration and conceptualizations of “home” that I observed among these two groups of Moroccans. 

Additionally, for Moroccans I spoke with in the village, the psychological “home” of Morocco might also be due to the factors and social pressures that forced these men to go and work in Europe in the first place. Sociologist Dr. Abderahim Anbi, born in Oulad Ghanem, explains that “men who went to Europe and successfully found employment were seen as heroes. Families used to compete on how many people they could afford to send to Europe to work.” These men clearly want to prove themselves to their families, friends and neighbors back home; if they never return, they cannot show their wealth, prosperity and success. Furthermore, if the migrant is unable to find work and wealth in Europe, the “family rather they don’t return” because their failure will be public for all in the village to see. 

The outward signs of success among migrants was clearly visible while staying in the village as well. When speaking with the men of the village, these same social pressures for migrants’ mandatory success were clearly identifiable. Hishem, a young man in his mid-twenties, refused to speak with us in darija because he wanted to prove that he was a “successful migrant” who learned Spanish while providing for his family during his time in Europe. He also wore the most western clothes out of anyone who we spoke to: a lavender cashmere sweater with a purple button down shirt, grey suit pants and shiny, black leather shoes. He looked European and spoke perfect Spanish. He was a successful migrant and everyone in the village knew it.

On a personal note, my village stay was one of the most memorable experiences of my life, particularly because of the unprecedented hospitality of the people I met. I stayed with the Atlassi family in a small, very simple one-story home. My father, Abdelahdi, was incredibly kind and gentle, always with a smile on his face and a spark in his eyes. He spoke no English, but immediately grabbed my arm and called me his son as he proceeded to bring me to every single house in the village. His wife, 3 sons, and daughter were all incredibly kind and hospitable as well. The family did not want to see me leave and made me promise to return next month to do research in the village.

When we arrived, we were straight to the house of the president of the NGO in the village. He lived in the biggest house in the village and was so welcoming and kind to all of us. By 8pm, all the men of the village (our host fathers) came to dine with us, a meal consisting of vegetable salads, tagines, and mounds and mounds of sweet couscous, made with sugar, raisins and onions (a type reserved for parties, holidays and special occasions). As the only male student on the program, I was invited to dine with all of the men of the village while my fellow female students ate together. I felt honored and cherished by this group of men who I just met; I even stayed til 12:30am talking about politics and business of the village with all of the men (yes, sebsi pipes were involved as well). 

Life in the village was relaxing and calm because there wasn’t that much to do each day, although my father would wake up at 5am to milk the cows, which lived in a room connected to our house, and my brothers went to school in a larger town a few miles away. After our lectures and site visits, I would walk around on the small, dirt country roads and run into villagers that I met who were also strolling to take in the beautiful scenery, as the sky was so blue and the country so green and lush.
The highlight activity of our stay was going to the souk on Sunday. Because of the size of the town, there is no supermarket or small store to buy food or staples for cooking. While there is a small hanoot or bodega, it only sells snacks, toiletries, and soft drinks. Therefore, Sunday souk is where the family must rely on to stock up for every meal of the week, and what they don’t buy at the souk comes from the land and nature. The souk was enormous, with thousands of people from nearby towns and villages. It was about 3 miles away, so we piled 12 people in the back of the village ambulance to journey to the souk. Once we got there, I was amazed at how sprawling it was, with a huge diversity of goods and produce ranging from fruits and vegetables to important goods from Italy and Spain. Furthermore, it was all organized by section based on what people were selling. What was also amazing about the souk was that people wore their best jellabas and dresses because it was the day to meet and converse with people from other villages, and daughters would often have their marriages arranged at the souk! On the way back, we took a horse and cart, another first for me...

I plan on keeping my promise to return. 






Friday, March 8, 2013

Off to the Village

We leave today for two tiny villages, Beni Mellal and Fqih ben Saleh, two small, Moroccan villages in the middle Atlas mountains. Last year, the SIT Migration program that travelled there (shout out to Emily Blease) were the first Americans ever to set foot in these villages.

What's interesting about these villages is that despite their size, they are totally orientated around migration out of Moroccan. Every family has at least one relative living in Europe, mainly Italy.

I'll be back in Rabat on Tuesday what a dirty, muddy blogpost for you all...

Thursday, March 7, 2013

Oops...finally

I got a 20dh ($2.50) haircut today.
...and goodbye Beard Bonanza, I'll miss you after 6 weeks of madness...





Assidaqee Magribeen

Having two brothers in high school is great because I am able to hang out with their friends on a daily basis. Whether playing Fifa in the medina, watching soccer matches, playing pick-up games on the beach, or just enjoying the view from Oudayya Terrace, there is always something to do. They really enjoy hanging out with me and my friends as well. 

Upon reflecting, it becomes clear how "cross-cultural" the homestay program is for so many people in the medina. They ask me about life in the United States, what American college is like, and so many other questions they have had for years about American culture, music, film and daily life, as they never had the chance to form personal relationships with an American before!


Me with Omar and his friends, Khaled and Amid, at my birthday party

Monday, March 4, 2013

21

My 21st birthday was one I will always remember...




Earlier this week, Mama insisted on throwing me a party to celebrate my 21st birthday with all of my friends and family in Rabat. At first I felt as though this was asking too much of my host family, especially after they had done so much for me over the course of the last month. However, they wouldn't take no for an answer, so I invited all of the American students currently studying with SIT in Rabat to my house for an authentic Moroccan birthday party. 

Mama and my sister, Kaoutar, begin preparations on Thursday for the party Sunday night. They cleaned the entire house, taking apart each room to "prepare it for the guests". They also bought Moroccan party music, rented chairs and tables, and prepared dessert menus for the evening. They even brought me with them to the bakery to pick out the cake I wanted! In addition to cake, we also bought hundreds of little Moroccan halaweyat (pastries/cookies) for all to enjoy.


The family arrived around 6pm to help set up for the party. All of my cousins, aunts, and grandmothers, in addition to Omar, Ayoub, Nissim and Kaoutar, helped set up for the party. We took many pictures and they gave me their presents, although I told them that the party was more than enough. My brothers gave me handmade wood keychains, my cousins and aunts gave me an authentic firestarter, and Mama gave me a sterling silver teapot, promising lessons to make "atay beneen" (delicious tea) when I return home to America. She cried when she gave it to me, because every day she makes me over 5 glasses of tea because it's my favorite, and she told me that every time she makes tea after I leave she will think of me, so this pot will make me think of her when I make tea back home. 

By 8pm, over 30 of my friends arrived and chatted for 20-30 minutes with my whole family, taking pictures and speaking in darija and French. Soon after, my brothers ushered them into the salon (living room, where I sleep) for halaweyat, cahwah (coffee) and atay (tea). During this time, Kaoutar's best friend came to do henna for the girls, as she is a professional artists and has a shop in the medina. After, we entered the main room for chocolate cake and lemonade. Everyone sang happy birthday to me in English, French, Arabic, Spanish and Dutch (my brothers' and cousins' idea) and I made a wish. 


Although I can't tell you my wish, I will say that it definitely involved wishing to return to Morocco each and every year in the future, hopefully with a family of my own, insh'allah.


All of my brothers and cousins were so happy to sit and talk with my fellow American students. My cousins, Zineb, Malak and Mahwah speak English, so they of course had a million questions for all of my friends. My brothers were next to me the whole night, as they were proud to throw me this party and I was even prouder to be part of this unbelievable family. All night, I was reminded of how lucky I am to be having such an amazing experience. My family is big, beautiful and so, so fun. My friends couldn't stop telling me how lucky I am and how nice, warm and thoughtful my family was to them.

After cake, everyone danced til around 11pm. I then took a few of my friends up to the terrace and we enjoyed the stars...

It certainly was one of the most special days of my life.







Sunday, March 3, 2013